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What is Grief and Loss?

Understanding Grief and Loss

What comes to mind when you think of grief and loss?  Do the following come to mind: losing a loved one, the end of a relationship, not getting that job or losing your job, learning there is no Santa?  

Some examples of loss are obvious while others are not so obvious like a new baby in the family, graduating, or starting a new relationship.  Though these are joyous moments, there is something being lost.  It may be losing time with a loved one; the loss of your innocence; or realizing that reuniting with an old flame is not a reality.  

Everyone experiences loss differently.  It is important to remember that all changes, even good ones begin with an ending. When good things happen the way things used to be is gone and there is a period of readjustment.  

Feelings Associated With Loss

There are many feelings that one can experience because of a loss.  One can feel anger, hurt, sadness, depression, helplessness, and even fear.  In addition to feelings, there are several thoughts come to mind. You may deny that the loss happened.  You make think about how you could have or should have acted.  So how does one deal with grief and loss and the thoughts and emotions that come up?  

Styles of Grieving

There are many ways to grieve but three common styles are as follows: getting over it, filling the emptiness and keeping the connection.

Getting Over It

• Don’t look back or dwell on the past
• Put the grief in a closet so it doesn’t get in your way

Filling the Emptiness

• Trying to keep busy from feeling the painful emotions

Keeping the Connection

•You embrace the grief as an important link to the person/thing lost

Dealing With Grief

There are pros and cons to how you deal with loss and grief. At Equilibria Psychological and Consultation Services, we have experienced therapists that work with individuals in addressing loss and grieving.  Our therapists can help you to find healthy ways to grieve and gain acceptance of where you are now.  If you would like to find out more about our services, please do not hesitate to contact us at 267-861-3685, Option 1.